I got a letter from my favorite harp teacher today, informing me that after 19 years of marriage and 3 children, she's leaving her family and moving to England to study.
How am I supposed to take that?
I'm grieving.
How could I congratulate her on what she sees as a blossoming of new life in a new direction, something that will FINALLY fill her life with beauty, while I see winter coming, cold and bare?
How can she move away from two little girls and a young man? And what about her husband, who still loves her?
I ache for her family. What will her little girls think when she leaves?
While I am not condemning or judging, and while I know that life has been very hard for her...
...I can't see the reason for leaving 3 precious children and a loving husband.
The in-laws are to blame in this instance (so I'm told), and that fills me with dread. How could parents do this to their child?
I hate seeing families split apart. I hate that people have to grow up without their parents. And I really hate seeing people make choices they may regret later.
I just don't know what to say.
Kaitlin,
ReplyDeleteSince I do not know this woman, or her situation, I cannot say much to her directly.
But if you feel like you can gently ask her what she thinks will become of her children, please do so. It may help her thinking. It may get her mind off herself.
Signed,
Someone who was raised without a mother
(Gina ;-) )
That's what I'm most concerned about, Gina. I think she is going to make an effort to visit her children, but honestly, they need more than that.
ReplyDeleteShe has two little girls, 9 and 11, and the only company they will have is their father (who works) and their older brother. Not a good situation.
I don't know if I can talk to her - she has finalized the divorce and been accepted to a college, and I have only just heard about it. I don't really want to make it worse.
I just feel like...I just want to ask, "how can you do that?" How can you leave little kids?
Of course we don't know the whole situation, but...
BUT! Little kids!
So I don't know what to say (if I can say anything - we really haven't kept in touch). I'm just really, really disappointed, and really worried about the kids.
Wow, I'm sorry. Yeah, it's really difficult to say anything to people when you're on the outside looking in...I will pray for her and hope that maybe the kids can find some way to split time between the US and London (and that all parties involved want and would like that arrangement).
ReplyDelete/sigh.
Yeah. I've got a gut feeling her new "blossoming" won't be what she hoped - no matter how excited you are, leaving a life you've been in for almost 20 years is a hard thing to do, and I think she may be really attached to at least one of her children.
ReplyDeleteI will be praying for all of them...I just feel so sad about it. :(
It's really discouraging.