This isn't a post about how boys are dumb and girls are smart. Just something I noticed while watching back-to-back episodes of Chuck (Chuck vs. the Sensei) and Psych (most notably Christmas Joy).
First, some background:
1. Chuck - Chuck and Sarah, his FBI handler, have "feelings" for each other. However, since Sarah's past is a mystery and seems to remain that way, Chuck decides he wants a "normal" life - so when his ex comes back in town, they get back together. (Needles to say, it's a disaster)
2. Sean likes Julie or "Jules", a police detective that he works with. Although you can tell there's chemistry, she keeps negativing Sean's hints. So when his friend's sister comes back in town, they revisit a tryst they kept 10 years ago. Again - a disaster.
Why do Chuck and Sean go back to the old when clearly they are in love w/ the new girls in their lives? Why do they both make mistakes? And why don't they see that the girls really do like them?
I just feel like...girls wouldn't do that.
Is it because boys need encouragement to keep going, while girls, once they get encouragement, seem to get tired of the game?
It's rather curious and I was just wondering.
Anyone know anything about male/female psychology when it comes to situations like this? I found it odd that 2 shows highlighted the same situation...
Anyway...not to say males/females have it wrong when it comes to these relationship issues...I'd just never thought about it before. ...Interesting.
I contemplated returning to an old flame when I was really lonely before we got together. I don't know that I had quite given in to how I felt about you at that point.
ReplyDeleteI've seen guys do it and I've seen girls do it. I think it comes down to loneliness and, sadly, resignation. You stop believing there's anyone out there for you so you return to something that may have felt good once to either try and recapture the magic or just medicate your pain.
I've seen girls do it too though. And its even uglier when it turns out bad for them than it is for boys in my experience.
I think guys do need to be encouraged when they like someone. If a girl likes a guy, she needs to show it. Games and secrecy don't do anyone any good.
After all, its how I got you. :) As soon as you were available I threw my cards down and hoped the deck would be kind.
Girls are just nastier in general, I think. :) (No offense, lady readers!)
ReplyDeleteIt's just interesting to see how relationships play out - males and females are fascinating.
I find you especially fascinating. :p
I'm so glad you threw your cards down. :)